Now, I know my organisation skills leave a lot to be desired BUT do you ever feel that you are drowning? I get this sense literally every day and I know how easy it is to fall in to that slippery slope of worrying about chores that frankly, are so unimportant in life. There are things I need to do that don’t even touch the first page of my (somewhat under-used) to do list but from now on, I’m really not going to let it concern my already overactive brain.
I bought myself a really cute list book a few weeks ago and despite writing down everything I’d like to realistically achieve each day, there are still a million things I don’t even bother including because I know it won’t happen.
Here’s an example – our front living room is currently *under construction* i.e. we’re having the tv put on the wall and it’s causing all manner of pain and mess. BUT in order to complete this apparently not as simple as I predicted task, the entire contents of our crap cupboard had to be removed. Oh my GOD what a mess.
Look at this mountain!!!
Do you have a crap mountain lurking somewhere at home? I’m pretty sure we have a few dotted around the place, hiding in cupboards. Is this normal or am I super messy? In reality, this is not going to get sorted any time soon unless I forfeit some of my other chores from their designated time.
My day is primarily taken up with this one:
We (I) do the usual toddler-related activities i.e. tidying up after the little munchkin, picking up all the food she throws (and never eats), reading the same book that she loves around fifty times, hoovering. A lot. I also attempt to do some washing, tidying up after the other two, three if you include Joe which I very much do, I occasionally eat some food myself and drink lukewarm tea. I invariably have to call someone I really don’t want to; today it was the car insurers to transfer my policy to the new car. This has added another item to my “To do” list as I now need to make sure I’m not being ripped off, which I suspect may be the case seeing as this new car apparently costs over £100 more to insure than my previous one hmmm BUT I’M NOT GOING TO STRESS ABOUT IT. It’ll happen, life won’t crash to a halt.
Then the other two return home from school so I cook dinner, tidy up the kitchen from the trillions of snacks that have been eaten and discarded, move shoes that have been kicked off, bags dumped in the hallway. Bedtime routine begins at 6pm but lasts for what feels like WEEKS. Emmeline first to bed and then Jude, lastly our night owl Elsa reluctantly turns in with a book or a Sudoku because her brain literally never switches off.
And all of this is without even glancing at the other things that really need doing…like sorting out crap mountain, chasing up Jude’s new school for a start date, filing paperwork (see Paper, Paper everywhere!) reading Jude’s new EHC plan (see link for guidance on how to acquire an EHCP if you think your child may benefit from one) and ensuring it’s all as I would like it. I think I could quite easily write a list of a hundred things I need to do but struggle because of all the day to day bits that take priority.
How do you all cope?! Are you attempting the blasé approach like me or are you characteristically organised? My coping tactic is going to be to take a bit more time out for myself, attend the beloved yoga class I miss every week because of chores and spend a little time looking after myself. I don’t do it. I never look after myself and I need to realise that I am a priority over the chores.
I am going to read this every day:
I can never realistically reach everything that needs doing so why bother stressing about it. I’m not complaining about being busy, I love to make sure everyone else is happy and where they need to be but sometimes I do get a moment of panic where I wonder if I will ever have a clear list again. I won’t, so I’m going to chill out, get my yoga pants on and sun salutation (if that can be a verb) for a little while whilst the beast naps.