One of the items I ordered for Jude turned up today so we excitedly opened the box and sat in wonder, watching the (fake) fish and bubbles floating round the tube whilst the water drifted hypnotically between a range of relaxing colours. Jude came home from school and was fascinated! He sat for ages, nose pressed up against the glass (ok plastic) and hands clamped on to feel the vibrations.
At bedtime, I thought to put the bubble tube in Jude’s room, whilst he got ready in the bathroom, so he could chill in bed and watch the colours around the room (it looks lovely in the dark). BUT…he freaked out. “Get it out! Get it out!” he repeatedly shouted at me, kicking his covers off the bed and flapping his arms. I turned it off at the wall and said that we’d just leave it in the corner until he’s used to it but then he said “no, I want it.” So on it went again…
This is a bit of a thing Jude does at times. I’ve affectionately named it the “I want it, I don’t want it” game. This game has the effect of breaking an individual down (I say “individual” but mean “me”) to the point where you feel like punching a wall and screaming into a pillow. It was the reason, as mentioned before, that Jude threw his ice lolly over the fence and then got upset because he wanted to eat it. But anyway, here we were…about to embark on the game again but I just walked away and said that it’s staying in your room so just ignore it and go to sleep. I’ll probably go upstairs now and find it on the landing.
*UPDATE* Just snuck upstairs and have seen a very happy Jude sitting in bed, hugging his knees and staring at the bubble tube which he’s turned on. Result!!! I can’t wait for the rest to turn up now! Jude’s sanctuary in the making…
As I briefly talked about a few days ago, Jude’s eczema flairs up in the heat. At the moment, it’s really red in the creases of his elbows, behind his knees and a little on each hand. We have battled with his skin since he was a tiny baby but thankfully it has eased a great deal over the years. As a baby, I’d have to literally bandage him up at every nap time and at night or else he’d scratch to the point he’d damaged every skin layer and end up with a massive infection. Nowadays, it gets bad in conjunction with his hay fever which he suffers from mildly in the late spring/early summer, but it is nothing like it used to be. We can control it with a bit of emollient, barrier cream to keep in the moisture, by not using harsh chemicals to wash clothes with and keeping him as cool as possible. I also give Jude oat and lavender baths which has a lovely calming effect on his skin.
When he was younger, he had regular doses of antibiotics but over the years, I have tried to avoid them as much as possible and am proud to say he hasn’t had any antibiotics since he was about five. I like to work out what exactly is wrong with him (or the girls) rather than treating what I think is an obvious symptom of something else. I appreciate that antibiotics are a necessity at times but also feel they are commonly reached for without an alternative consideration.
So why do people get eczema and others do not? I had it as a child but only quite mildly…
If anyone has any recommendations for skin problems then I’d love to hear your thoughts. What has or hasn’t worked for you? I understand it’s a differing situation for each individual however, it can be useful to make shared suggestions.
NHS ideas on eczema – http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Allergies/Pages/Stopthescratching.aspx
I always thought diet can have an effect on eczema and even cause it, however I have been reading today on an American website that actually, after the age of about 4 it is unusual for food allergies to be the cause of eczema. Food allergies can create an eczema-like skin reaction however, apparently they are different things. Interestingly, the National Eczema Association suggest that food CAN have an effect on the severity of eczema…This link below has some interesting articles so have a look if you think it may help you.
They state: “It is thought that in about 30% of children with eczema, food may be one of the causes, but a much smaller group than this (about 10%) will have food as their main or only trigger. This means that only a small number of children with eczema are helped by changes in diet…”
Worth a try…I’m waiting to hear back from the nutritionist with her professional ideas but think it will involve gluten and dairy free for a month, just to see if it has an effect. Fingers crossed.
Here are a few (!) other possible triggers that are found at school, suggested by the Eczema Society:
Soap and water , Temperature, sweat, messy or wet play, art and cookery, clothing and uniform, dust, carpet, chairs, pollen, animals, damp and mould, food, swimming, fragrance
Chairs?!?! Think we’ll start with the food possibilities…