A very good friend of mine today told me about a radio phone in on Three Counties Radio that literally shocked her to the core. A phone in where people were agreeing that disabled people who make a lot of noise or potential disruption in society shouldn’t be allowed where “normal” people go and this includes on holiday, public transport, restaurants, etc.
I haven’t listened to the entire show as I know it is too close to home and will upset me too much but I was wondering if anyone else had heard it this morning?
I literally have nothing to say. The fact we are evening discussing whether disabled children should be allowed out in society is disturbing and archaic. Why should someone I have never met tell me where Jude can or can’t go. Why should someone I have never met dictate how we should behave in society anyway??
This connects well to my conversation yesterday about our terrible day with the idiotic teenager laughing at Jude crying in a park. THIS is the type of attitude we are constantly fighting against and having to face on a daily basis. And if we don’t miraculously face it one day, we still fear that we do so and thus have constant anxiety about going into public arenas.
Please give me your thoughts. Listen from 1.09ish for the initial woman who told a disabled child to be quiet in a restaurant – fair enough, if it was seriously annoying I agree that children should be taught how to behave in social settings. What is disturbing is the lady from 1.18 who is clearly insane.
She suggests that people going out and spending money for a nice evening shouldn’t have their evening ruined by disabled children or people being a bit different. She says that if she had a disabled child then she wouldn’t go out and put herself in these situations BUT HOW DOES SHE KNOW THIS!?! Would she stay in all the time?
At 1.21 she even says we shouldn’t take our disabled children to nice restaurants and that there are plenty of places “geared” for families such as ours. For instance MacDonalds. I wouldn’t step foot in a MacDonalds and I’m proud to say that Jude hans’t either but she also isn’t sure whether we are worthy of the likes of Zizzi or Jamie’s Italian so I’m not sure where we could go and eat because we have been to both of these and survived the experience! This woman states we aren’t good enough for more expensive places because the ambience dictates quiet and relaxation.
Clearly she has no comprehension of any learning disability. I know children who will freak out because they are “lively” environments such as McDonalds. That constant murmur of noise is enough to drive some autistic children insane. Perhaps they would be better suited to an “ambience” that is calmer and quieter but sadly, yet again this proves how uneducated a lot of people are and how sadly, we are not welcome.
What do you think? A x